Parenting a Child with ADHD | Surviving Parenting a Child with ADHD – Welcome
Hi there! It’s Mrs P here – but you can call me Sandra. I’ve never been much of a one for formality!! And this is my family. Graham, Marissa (the big one with ADHD) & Sabrina.
Welcome to my blog.
I suspect you may have landed here as you are looking for answers about parenting a child with ADHD?
Here in this blog I aim to share my daily life as a mother parenting a child with ADHD in the hope of helping others coping with the same struggles to know that they are not alone.
I aim to share the struggles, the feelings, the joys, the disappointments, the pain, the challenges, the triumphs, the frustrations, the heartache, the funny side and the fight to support and help my daughter.
I also want to bring awareness about the effects it has on the whole family as well because it does affect everyone…
….not just the mother and the child concerned.
This is a Mother’s First Hand Account.
I hope you’ll enjoy reading….
Parenting a Child with ADHD | Surviving Parenting a Child with ADHD – The Beginning
Looking back to when I was 12 years old, I used to spend as much time as possible in my neighbour’s house playing with her small babies and babysitting them whenever I could.
I wished for the day I could become a Mum myself.
I never really knew what I wanted to do for a job when I grew up but I definitely had a dream of becoming a mum and living happily ever after.
Little did I know how difficult it would be when it finally happened at the age of 39….
…but then I didn’t realise back then that I’d be parenting a child with ADHD.
And even as I hear myself saying that it’s been difficult, I am filled full of guilt at feeling that way because it seems ungrateful….
Being a parent is a miraculous gift and I know only too well that some people are not lucky enough to be given the opportunity.
To those people who want to have children but for whatever reason can’t, my heart goes out to you.
Because however difficult parenting a child with ADHD has been for me I truly know how lucky I am to have my two gorgeous daughters and I am endlessly grateful that I have been blessed with the gift of sharing my life with them and my wonderful husband.
And that guilt I feel when I say that family life can be difficult when parenting a child with ADHD is part of the reason I’m writing this blog.
I can’t be the only parent of a child with ADHD who sometimes struggles with the challenges it presents and the guilt of feeling it’s difficult….
….struggles to keep calm when there’s a deadline to meet to get to school or work on time and your child has taken 50 minutes to complete two five minute tasks when she even has a 10 minute timer to help her focus on the task and the timescale to do it in.
…struggles to find incentives to motivate your child to get things done when they can’t keep the rewards in mind long enough to focus on the goal.
…struggles when your child gets so upset and sobs her heart out because she’s really really been trying to concentrate but the more she tries the harder it is because her frontal lobes shut down when she tries too hard.
They say it helps to write things down to help you deal with your feelings.
So I thought writing this blog will help me do that and if JUST ONE OTHER PERSON who’s struggling with parenting a child with ADHD just like me were to stumble upon it whilst looking for help online one day, then hopefully they will know they’re not alone.
And if that person is you and you want to get in touch, please know that I am real and would love to chat.
You can even email me here.
Sending you love and hugs ….because if you are that person you probably need them!!
Love & Hugs
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